Are you empathic and feeling deeply? If so, right now you may be experiencing even more sensitivity. Being empathic is a gift – even if sometimes it doesn’t feel that way. Join me in this episode as I share some helpful insights to support you and your intuitive gifts.
Empathic and feeling deeply? | #034
Transcript Maria Furlano, DMQ (China), MTOM, L.Ac.
Welcome to The Art Of Tuning In Podcast with Maria Furlano, sharing insights, tools and conversations to inspire your energetic well being.
Hello, everyone, welcome. This is Maria Furlano. Thank you for joining me today, we are about to move into winter on December 21. I love this time of year. But today I want to talk to all the people out there who feel really deeply. So those really empathic people, those deep feelers as I call them, and I’m one of them… I get you. I want to talk to you a little bit about this winter time going within, feeling deeply.
And in case too much is coming up for you right now, because this often happens at this time of year, I want to give you just a little bit of insight and reminders of maybe some things that you can do to ease up a lot of what it feels like it’s just bubbling up for you and hopefully have you move your energy a little more smoothly, and be able to also restore your energy a bit.
But first, before I move forward, I just want to say thank you to anyone new, who’s listening to this podcast. Thank you for finding me, thank you for tuning in. I’m a physician of Chinese medicine and I specialize in Medical Qigong. And I’m also an energy intuitive and spiritual medium. And everything that I teach is on The Art Of Tuning In.com that’s my online studio. And I would love for you to visit and learn more about what I offer there. And for those of you who have been listening for a while, thank you for coming back and joining today.
~Breathing tune in~
As you know, I always take just a moment to take a deep breath, and a nice long exhale. And this is because it helps us reset our nervous system, it helps calm our heartbeat, and it helps bring us absolutely present into the moment. The more we practice this during the day, the more we reset our energy, the more we calm our nervous system, the more we move into relax and digest and repair… The healthier we are. So just a good reminder to take a deep breath, nice long in through your nose, and an even longer exhale, right out your mouth… Just allowing yourself to be in your body.
Which moves us beautifully into today’s topic of being highly feeling, a very highly empathic person. The winter time, as you’ve heard me say on other episodes is really a time of restoring. It’s a time for the seed that’s been planted in the ground, to gather its energy, and to have enough excess energy that it gathers so that by the time spring comes around, is able to begin to grow and to sprout. Then by the time summer comes around, it’s in full bloom. And all of that takes energy. We are energetic beings that need to reset and replenish our energy and the seasons are the beautiful time to do that.
Right now of course it’s December 2020. We’re in a different phase right now, because we’re in the Coronavirus epidemic, and people are staying home more. And that can bring about its own sense of emotional issues to feeling closed in. And for someone who is highly empathic. For someone who feels very deeply, this can almost get claustrophobic feeling, it can feel like you’re taking on everybody else’s energy in your household. And it can be completely overwhelming.
You may not realize how much you actually are taking on from each other. Of course, you don’t have to be living with other people to have this happening. If you live alone, and you’re highly empathic, you’re picking up all of the energy that’s going on in the world. And right now, there’s a lot of grief that’s happening in the world as well. A lot of deaths, a lot of illness, a lot of fear, a lot of anxiety.
When you are an empathic person, you do pick up what’s not only in your environment, but you pick up what’s surrounding you as well. And of course, on top of that you have all of your own emotions and all of your own states of being that are rising to the surface, and it can feel quite overwhelming.
Did you grow up being told you’re “oversensitive?”
The first thing that I just want to say today is that if you’re empathic if you are a highly feeling sensitive person, good for you. That is awesome!
A lot of people who are very empathic, who are highly sensitive, highly feeling, they grow up being told that they’re just too sensitive that they’re oversensitive, that they’re overdramatic. Although I will definitely say that it is completely possible to align this beautiful gift of being empathic, and being very sensitive, and being able to really sense into the emotional state of other people and of the world, and to definitely, of course, balance and harmonize your own emotional state, it can be very difficult when you grow up or around people who feel that you’re too sensitive. So sometimes what happens is that you tend to shut down or shove down how you’re feeling and what you’re picking up. But that, of course, doesn’t work, because it’s just gonna bubble up anyway, it’s part of who you are.
Are you empathic?
First, let me just touch upon really quickly, if you’re wondering if you’re highly empathic, if you’re someone who is around other people, and can very often feel how another person is feeling without them telling you, chances are that you’re picking up empathically their emotions. And of course, we can do this on a larger scale to reaching out into the world into the planet and experiencing different events.
Some empathic people really feel these events in their body, like it’s happening to them. And so we can want to turn that off, because it’s very uncomfortable. So like I said, there definitely are ways to train your energy so that you still keep this amazing gift and skill of being empathic, but that you’re not taking it on, it’s not draining your energy. It’s not changing you in ways where you’re reacting and responding to other events and other people in ways that you really don’t want to, in overwhelmed ways and anxiety driven ways.
Comfort and textures…
And a lot of times people who are highly feeling, highly empathic people, your clothes that you wear need to be extremely comfortable. You don’t wear anything that’s really tight, usually loving, soft and wonderful textures of clothing is really important to you, because you’re feeling so much throughout your whole body… It makes sense that what you wear needs to also go with that. And if that comes up for you, that’s very common.
When I say that we can actually balance this beautiful gift and not have it overwhelm us. What do I mean by that? Well, as you know, I teach Medical Qigong, and I teach people how to align and clear and reset their energy. And honestly, clearing your energy on a daily basis. And on a regular basis throughout the day, is very necessary for people who are highly empathic, because you move through events all throughout their day, and depending on what you’re picking up, the better you are at clearing your energy at keeping your energy clear, the less you’ll feel like you’re taking on throughout the day.
So learning how to clear your energy is really important. Now, there are ways you can do that through exercising, when you exercise, you start to sweat, you start to release, and it’s all about discharging energy. And if you can exercise on a regular basis, whether it’s walking, whether it’s running, whether it’s working out on a machine, whatever it is really breathing through and clearing your energy so that you get back to who you are, is really essential. Sweating helps a lot because it is a huge dispersing quality.
But if you’re not able to do that, or you don’t like to do that doing beautiful practices such as Yoga is wonderful too. And of course, if you know Qigong, specific clearing techniques of Qigong are really important. If you’re part of my online studio, of course, we’re going to be going into specific clearing exercises, more deeply beginning in January.
The first step is really being aware, being aware and okay with the fact that you pick up energy. I know this might sound really funny to people, but a lot of empaths they start to deflect, they start to push away with their feeling because it feels so uncomfortable. The moment that you step into your gift, the moment that you step into understanding that it is a gift to be highly empathic that it is a gift to be sensitive to what’s going on, on our planet to what’s going on in world events to what’s going on in each other is a gift. And that gift doesn’t mean that you’re acting upon it… It doesn’t mean that if you see somebody in pain that you rush to their aid, that is not what that gift means it means about being sensitive and aware.
Actually, the true ability of an empath the true skill of an empath is actually to learn how to raise their vibration enough so that they transform the energy that they’re picking up.
Not move into it with their own energy, not take it on, not feel responsible, but to actually transform the vibration that they’re feeling.
And this, of course, is a process, it’s a process of learning how to align your energy is a process of learning how to cultivate your energy, but it is a real skill.
If you’re someone who meditates on a regular basis, sitting and doing the practice of breathing in what you’re feeling. And then allowing those feelings to exit your heart. And to go into the universe and into universal love and be transformed into light is a beautiful practice to do, especially when you’re feeling overwhelmed with emotion.
Being caught up in others energy…
But one thing that empaths tend to do is that they never take time for themselves. They’re always caught up in other people’s emotions, because that’s what they’re feeling. Of course, it’s not necessarily because they want to, but it’s because it’s such a palpable skill for them. So it’s really important that after you do your practice of letting go of the emotions, that you’re feeling, that you move into a practice for yourself, where you’re concentrated fully on yourself, and aligning your own energy with a clear heart and mind.
This is really important, because a lot of people who are empathic are constantly giving to others, and they’re not receiving themselves, the giving and the giving is actually draining their energy. And when you drain your energy, it makes it much harder for you to stand in alignment and be able to protect your energy field from taking on everybody else’s energy. So there are ways to be able to clear your energy, like I mentioned, and reset and align your energy, so that you’re able to hold your energy field, and to be able to choose more of what you allow yourself to experience. And what you have a boundary of allowing yourself to experience.
Might feel impossible
If you’re someone who is highly feeling highly sensitive, that may seem almost impossible to you right now, especially if you’re someone who really is picking up what’s going on in the world right now, this past year 2020, all of the events. And now of course, as we go into winter, your energy may be getting very tired. And this is really why I wanted to do this episode, in the wintertime for everyone, for everyone on the planet, like I said, it’s a time of rest, it’s a time when our energy will be feeling a little more tired. But that tired feeling is actually like a hibernation quality, where energy is starting to go within. And that energy that’s going within if we will allow it to go within, if we won’t fight it, if we won’t try to push through, it will actually start to relax. And we’ll start to sleep more deeply. And we’ll start to restore energy. And we’ll actually start to feel like we have more energy.
Do you know what you’re “taking in?”
But in order to be able to do that. We also need to recognize if we’re taking on other people’s emotions. So awareness is key, asking yourself, what is it that I do on a regular basis? Do I pay attention to myself? Do I know my energy separated from all the emotions and the energy that I’m picking up around me and in others?
And if you don’t, that’s okay. One of the things that you can do is you can start to tune in to what it is that you are picking up from others, and start to understand the difference between what is theirs? And what is your energy. And the way that you do that. First of all, being aware, of course of what you’re feeling, what emotions are coming in, and when it hits you, especially if all of a sudden you notice that your mood slightly changes a little bit that your energy slightly slightly changes just a little bit. Chances are you’ve been exposed to an emotional energy, you’ve been exposed to a vibration that you’re picking up and you’re feeling that. Now you can still feel that and understand it and not have to have it come into your body and change your chemistry and “take it on as yours.”
Taking on what isn’t yours…
That’s really the big thing that I just want to put out there is if you’re starting to take on energy, of people have emotions of events, and you’re taking that energy on as yours, that’s not a healthy thing to do. And it doesn’t have to be that way, you can still be a highly sensitive person, you can still receive information, and be able to work with people and be able to be sensitive to people. But you can learn how to know this is theirs – and mine is mine. And I don’t have to take on theirs in order to be able to be kind or sensitive. And again, that goes back to knowing your own energy, working with your own energy, aligning your energy enough, and being able to give to yourself being able to receive.
When I talk about being able to receive the reason why I continually bring that up, is because we get very distracted in what we’re picking up. So if as an empath, you’re picking up other people’s emotions, feelings, the events of the world, this is a very distracting energy that continually pulls us out of ourselves. And so if we’re constantly distracted with the events and the emotions that we’re picking up, we’re usually not very good at being in tune with what we personally need.
As we move into winter solstice, this is the perfect time to start to be able to tune in and get quiet with yourself to start to realize how do you process things? What are your empathic skills and what are you taking on that maybe you don’t need to take on? And how do you want to align your energy better, to receive better for yourself so that you can fully nourish your energy and be able to grow and sprout in the spring and flourish in the summer.
I thank you so much for tuning in. I am going to take a short break myself and rest and tune in I will be back in the New Year 2021 here we come! I can’t wait for the new energy of the new year and I thank you so much for being with me. I’ll see you next year.
Thank you for tuning in. If you’d like to learn more and elevate your energetic well being I invite you to visit TheArtOfTuningIn.com where you can learn all about our online studio. I look forward to meeting you there.